December 15, 2022

TPL Insights: Building Peak-Performance Cultures #149 – Start Performing at the Top of Your Sector and Live Your Best Personal and Professional Life – Part 1

By Rob Andrews

By Rob Andrews with paraphrased content from M. O’Brien’s mindsetting workshop and Jen Sincero’s book You are Badass: Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life  

On December 8th, Michael O’Brien, our collaboration partner at BluePrint Toolset, and a very good friend, conducted a 3-hour mini workshop on developing a high-performance mindset. 25 people attended, including a half dozen clients. The response has been amazing and now everyone who attended wants to learn more. People who have had just a small taste of what it’s like to have a high-performance mindset now want to leverage this new knowledge to become more effective, build better teams, more profitable and sustainable companies, and live better lives.

Our methodology is proprietary, and involves a diagnostic instrument designed by Michael O’Brien. Our initial assessment reveals limiting beliefs, and a roadmap to systematically “overwrite” old “tapes” with new liberating “recordings” to build a new high-performance mindset. Recognizing that we are not the last word on wisdom in this regard, we are relentless in our pursuit of great content to help our readers and clients. Jen Sincero, who is not only a New York Times bestselling author, but an extraordinarily funny speaker and coach, authored one of my favorite books: You are a Badass: Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life. I enjoyed it so much, I had to share it.

According to Jen, a self-described former loser, it is possible for anyone to systematically address our self-imposed limitations and dismantle them one by one. She argues that we put limits on ourselves and then don’t question them enough to make the changes that we desperately desire to see in our lives. By looking at both the powerful natural forces of the universe around us and the destructive power of our own self-doubts, Jen sets out to prove that we are all capable of accomplishing far more than we have ever imagined. Part 1 of this post summarizes major takeaways from Jen’s work.

Facing Your Subconscious

We are born without fear and self-consciousness. Over time, we learn all the things we’re not capable of and the way we “should be.” Much of what we’ve learned is a “load of crap.” The first step in achieving a high-performance mindset is recognizing your subconscious is literally running your life. The answer to living your best life is to see and affirm what you want.

Be as Present as Possible

“If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.” —Lao Tzu. When you stop to ponder it, the time we spend in our brains chasing anxious thoughts and situations that likely will never manifest themselves is truly frightening. Being wrapped up in our heads can have dire consequences for the way we conduct our lives today. When you spend your time worrying about the past or the present or the future, you miss the opportunities for growth that are right in front of you. Even worse, not being present in your own life prevents you from being connected to the source/natural energy that is all around us. The more connected you are to your present moment, the richer and more fulfilling your life will become.

Embrace Your Inner Badass

  1. Appreciate how special you are: We are all born with special talents that we will use in ways unique to everyone around us. Tap into that power!
  2. Drown yourself in affirmations: Figure out what you love about yourself, what talents make you happy to be alive, and what sets you apart from those around you. Then, celebrate them! Repeat affirmations to yourself all day long about what you are good at, and the negative self-talk will slowly go away.
  3. Do things you love: Life is busy. We all know that. That’s no excuse for not making the things you love a priority. Find what makes your heart sing and go after it!
  4. Find a replacement: Negative self-talk is far too normal for most of us. Find ways to change these phrases into positive talk instead. Become aware of what runs through your head every day and find ways to change the narrative towards self-love.
  5. Ditch the self-deprecating humor: Self-deprecating humor may be funny, but it comes at too high of a cost for you to subject yourself to it. What you tell yourself daily is more powerful than you realize, and a habit of seemingly harmless jokes at your own expense will soon turn to destructive beliefs.
  6. Let the love in: Don’t turn away well-meaning compliments by dismissing them. Instead, give a simple expression of gratitude and move on. You may be surprised how much a simple compliment can transform your day when you allow it to.
  7. Don’t compare yourself to others: Comparison is one of the fastest ways to take all kinds of enjoyment out of your life. Don’t let it become debilitating by allowing yourself to take pride in your accomplishments, no matter how they compare to those around you.
  8. Forgive yourself: We all make mistakes. Making big ones doesn’t make you special or unique, which is why learning to forgive yourself for your faults is incredibly important.
  9. Find your purpose: Living a life of purpose and meaning is far more rewarding than most of us imagine. Find a job you love and never work a day in your life.

Affirm What You Want (Mindsetting)

If we are to achieve our full potential, we need to decide to move toward what we want. We need to see joy, accomplishments, and perfection. Then we need to write out affirmations of a new reality, so we don’t randomly allow our thoughts to meander. Discipline and control the projection of your imagery to allow what you really want to become reality. Surround yourself with positive things, positive stimuli, and possibility thinkers, not complainers and thumb suckers. Human beings become like the people with whom they associate, the tapes they listen to, the books they read, and the programs they watch. People who are growing and accomplishing envision a bright future as if it existed today. They learn to “tell the truth in advance.”

Examples of Effective Affirmations

It feels so great to enjoy my trim, toned, and fit 170-pound body. The boundless energy and wellbeing I experience because of my diet and exercise regimen make me so grateful for having made the commitment.

I feel so good today because I’ve been willing to take risks, weigh my options, make the best decisions I could at the time, and give myself the freedom to be imperfect. My personal growth is so exciting because of my commitment to stretch and experience new things. I am truly the person I’ve wanted to become.

I am so amazed at my planning and organizational skills I’ve developed. Because I’ve focused on the why behind my goals, acted creatively and innovatively, and challenged assumptions of the past, including my own. I’ve been able to do what most people think is impossible. It feels so good!

I am so proud of the reputation I’ve developed for integrity. I know the end doesn’t always justify the means and that the method by which I get results matters. I am able to act on my convictions while allowing others to grow at their own pace. Integrity feels so fantastic!

The relationships I’ve built today are my greatest asset. Because I’ve learned to operate with an open agenda, communicate clearly and concisely, and let people know why I do the things I do. People trust me and value my friendship and thought partnership.

The way I think today amazes even me! These days I am more concerned about others and see them as worthy of my time. I feel happy for others when they succeed and get just as much joy from their success as they do. Because I feel so comfortable in my own skin, I no longer feel the need to “impress” others.

It feels so incredible to have $10 million in the bank and a $2 million personal practice. I’m so confident in my financial performance today that I downplay my own contributions and focus on the needs and goals of others.

The journey toward a true high-performance mindset can be fun, enjoyable, and extremely rewarding. When the subconscious is “programmed” with the right data, you’ll move almost effortlessly toward your wildest dreams and loftiest goals. While learning how to systematically replace your limiting beliefs with liberating beliefs, you won’t have to “try hard” or force yourself into doing anything. Give us a shout and let’s start your journey.